“So often, children are punished for being human. Children are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes. Yet we adults have them all the time! WE ALL HAVE DAYS LIKE THAT. None of us are perfect, and we must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection that we can attain ourselves.”
– Rebecca Eanes
Hooray! It is finally December, and I can finally say, “Christmas is coming soon!” without getting any side-eye form those who worry about skipping over Thanksgiving!
Christmas can be a stressful time of year: shopping, cooking, cleaning, company, bills, and parties on top of our already busy lives. It can be so overwhelming. It is helpful to remember that you are not alone in that stress. As the adults in your house, what stresses you will also stress your children.
I remember when my kids were little, the craziness of our December schedules kept us from a regular sleep schedule. Add to that all the Christmas cookies, yummy casseroles, holiday punch, and homemade candy that is a part of the holiday season, and you get a bunch of sugared-up tired and cranky children and adults.
This month as you celebrate the Christmas season with your friends and family, keep in mind your child may be just and tired and cranky as you are. You have a choice on how you respond to their behaviors.
You can respond from a place of love and empathy, or you can react out of embarrassment and anger.
NOW before you get the idea that Miss Jenni thinks that kids shouldn’t get in trouble over the holidays just because it is a busy time of the year, I want you to know that is far afield from what I am advocating for here. I just want parents to remember that children are just as human as adults are. We try to love our children in the same way that Jesus loves us.
Jesus loves us as we are. Love your children as they are.
Jesus loves us in spite of our mistakes. Show your children love in spite of their mistakes.
Jesus wants us to turn away from sin and follow Him and His ways.
Instead of being angry at your child for what they did, teach them in a loving way how to do better next time.
I wish you well!